Be The Positive

Be The Positive
"Be The Change You Want to See In The World" I want to be a positive change. I will Be The Positive!

October 15, 2014

Learning Wisdom from Others

I was able to have lunch with an amazing group of women a couple weeks ago.  They are more mature and experienced in life, marriage, family, and home than I am.  I absolutely enjoyed partaking of their conversation, advice, and stories.  Being the youngest in the group doesn’t happen as often as it used to.  One of the women apologized that I was having to socialize with “older” women and was worried I felt awkward.  Are you kidding?  I LOVED IT!! 

I learned new things about these women, home & family tricks, and how to better serve in my community.  One woman talked about her world champion horse, losing weight, and taking dance class.  Hooray for her!!  I enjoyed hearing about these positive things in her life.  Another woman came from work on her lunch break, and talked about her love of canning and preserving.  She brought a great tool she uses to keep her lids from sticking together!  And she shared a makeup tip.  Another gal talked about moving from California to Idaho to be near her best friend and sister and how she is so happy she made this change!  There was a new friend that told us about an organization she and her husband are a part of.  They get to go to Africa with families who are looking to adopt out of country.  They help in the orphanages with physical and emotional needs.  I was so humbled to hear of her passion and love for this cause.  One of the Ladies was already a friend of mine (the one who apologized); she shared her story of giving her kidney to her son with kidney disease.  She talked about the testing and the doctor’s doubts.  She shared her good health choices and how they made it possible to share her kidney with her son.  Another gal talked about traveling the world with her husband and how happy she is that they can enjoy it together.  She offered cleaning tips for the home.  The last lady to share told about an accident her husband had when falling off a ladder.  The head injury he received and the bleak outcome that the doctors have given him.  He is home, and she is his caretaker, for now.  They are hopeful, prayerful, and grateful.  She feels so lucky to still have him with her, no matter the challenge.  They are positive that they can work through this.

I shared my story of where I grew up, how I met my husband, and my current journey to Mrs. Idaho America.  I talked about my platform, Be The Positive.  I expressed the importance of having a positive attitude and having something that we enjoy to help us through the tough times.  I didn’t need to share for long.  These women have amazing experiences and positive attitudes.  They inspired me to be more positive that day!!  What a blessing for me to be invited to attend this luncheon.  Truly inspiring.  I now have 6 new friends.  None of which are old or boring!  Thank You Ladies for your wisdom and friendship.  The only thing I regret, is I didn't get any pictures!!!!  Oops!

September 24, 2014

Bullying

Bullying is a significant issue in United States schools. In fact, according to a recent report by the National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center, nearly 6 million American children are involved in some way with bullying—whether as the bully or the victim.

What is bullying?
The act of bullying occurs when one child manipulates another child through threats, violence or verbal abuse, or uses other intimidation tactics to force the child to do something or exclude the child from a group. Also, bullies most always have low self-esteem.   This can create the ‘Bully Cycle.’

There are different types of Bullying- Physical bullying, verbal bullying, cyber bullying and more.  Bullying can happen at school, home or in the neighborhood.  Bullying can leave victims feeling powerless, anxious, angry and depressed.
Bullying is often dismissed as part of growing up. But it's actually an early form of aggressive, violent behavior. Statistics show that one in four children who bully will have a criminal record before the age of 30.

Recently while speaking to a youth group we played an anti-bullying game based on Simon Says.  I shared the game hoping to teach the youth that they have shared qualities and differences, likes and dislikes. I had each of them write down one thing they like or is unique about them on a small piece of paper.  Then I drew each paper & game them different instructions.  i.e. the paper said "I Like Music".  I said- "Simon Says- Touch your ear if you like music".  Every person put their finger to their ear.  One paper said "lick my elbow"- So I said- "Simon Says Lick your elbow, if you know how to lick your elbow."  Almost everyone in the room tried!  Even though only girl could actually do it.  It was fun to see how much they had in common, how unique people are, and to embrace those differences.  It may help to ask the youth to identify one new thing they learned about another person that wasn't already known. The game demonstrates diversity and similarity shared by all participants, and helps kids learn to be tolerant of others.
Bullying can affect everyone—those who are bullied, those who bully, and those who witness bullying. Bullying is linked to many negative outcomes including impacts on mental health, substance use, and suicide.

 The Bully:
I didn't have time to do this activity.  But I think it is a good message, especially for younger kids.  Activity – The toothpaste activity – Ask for a volunteer to come to the front of the room. Place a strip of masking tape on the length of the table. With a tube of toothpaste, have the volunteer run a bead of toothpaste on the length of the masking tape.  Now ask the participant to put the toothpaste back in the tube.  Obviously, it can’t be done.  This is an example of how hurtful words once spoken cannot be taken back.  Bullies say hurtful words frequently and need to know the impact that their words have on their victims.

If someone thinks they have a bullying problem, here is a list of things to think about or try.

Treat Everyone with Respect 
Nobody should be mean to others.
Keep in mind that everyone is different. Not better or worse. Just different.  
If you think you have bullied someone in the past, apologize. Everyone feels better.


 
The Victim:
What to Do If You’re Bullied.  Here are a few tips: 

Look at the kid bullying you and tell him or her to stop in a calm, clear voice. You can also try to laugh it off. This works best if joking is easy for you. It could catch the kid bullying you off guard.
If speaking up seems too hard or not safe, walk away and stay away. Don’t fight back. Find an adult to stop the bullying on the spot.
Stay near adults and other kids. Most bullying happens when adults aren’t around.

Victims of Bullying need to remember who they are & they are of value.  Don't let the bully get to you & let you start doubting yourself.  Here are some thoughts about Self Esteem and Self Acceptance.

What is self-acceptance? Self-acceptance is being able to recognize your value as a person.  It is essentially your level of self-worth and feeling of comfort in your own skin regardless of your faults and weaknesses.  Without self-acceptance, one would not be capable of reaching their full potential in life.

What is the difference between self-acceptance and self-esteem?

Self-esteem is a belief or feeling about yourself.  It is what you believe or feel you are capable of doing.  Having high self-esteem can help build self-acceptance.

High Self-Esteem = Feeling good about yourself

Low Self-Esteem = Feeling badly about yourself

 Self-acceptance is more of an action rather than an abstract sense of self.  It is something you do – you stick up for yourself, you utilize your strengths and take responsibly for your faults, and you practice loving yourself every day.

How can I build my self-acceptance?

It usually comes from messages you get about yourself.  These messages can come from other people (like parents, teachers, or friends) or from yourself.  The messages you send yourself is called “Self-Talk.” 
Positive self-talk is when you focus on your strengths and positive qualities, reminding yourself that you are a good and valuable person.

Dealing with bullies must be done in a positive manner. Bullies look for easy targets, so if you respond to initial threats in a confident, self-assured way, it could head off subsequent incidents. Remember: Act confident. Do not show fear or signs that you are intimidated. Most importantly, make and keep some good friends.

The Bystander
A child who is a bystander to bullying may use the following excuses for not intervening or reporting the behavior they witness:
Saying the bully 'is my friend'Saying 'it’s not my problem'Saying that the victim is not their friend Saying that the victim is a 'loser' (this is bullying too!) Saying that the victim 'deserved' to be bullied (NO ONE EVER DESERVES IT!) Saying that the bullying will 'toughen up' the victim. Saying that they would rather be part of the 'in group' than defend the victim Saying that there is nothing they can do about it. Saying that they don't want to be a 'tattle tale'. Saying that they are afraid that they will 'be next' if they do anything.
While speaking with the youth and asking questions about this- they agreed with most of these Bystander thoughts.  I urged them to help kids who are bullied by showing kindness or getting help.
Here are some of the thoughts I shared with this youth group:
What You Can Do
There are things you can do to keep yourself and the kids you know safe from bullying.
Treat Everyone with Respect
Stand Up for Others
Get Involved
Be a Friend
Tell and adult
Help them get away
Set a good example
Don’t give bullying an audience

In Conclusion I suggested to these youth to find someone to talk to about bullying.  I offered the suggestions of:
Parents
Teachers
Youth Leaders
Church Leaders
Friends
Grandparents or other extended family members (Uncles, Aunts, etc.)


I think it is important for our youth to find things they enjoy doing and are good at. Special activities, interests, and hobbies can boost confidence, help kids make friends, and protect them from bullying behavior.

I know the nation's schools are trying so hard to prevent bullying.  I see anti-bullying messages at my son's middle school in every classroom.  I see them on the television.  I hear them from my own children.  I hope that our children will listen, be confident, and be kind.  We need to help them too!
A couple sources that I researched from and found very helpful were:

September 9, 2014

Positive Body Image

There is a lot of talk about Body Image right now.  I want to chime in too!  I volunteered with A Celebration of Real Beauty over the past couple years.  I really enjoyed my experience and the positive message that they share.  My husband teased me when I got started that it was just a program to help overweight women feel better about being overweight.  But that is NOT how I see positive body image.  And that is NOT what A Celebration of Real Beauty is about.  And I have educated my husband (who has NEVER complained about my body), about positive body image.

While I would still like to bring A Celebration of Real Beauty to the Boise area, I have been doing some of my own work with Be The Positive.  Here is the message I would like to share.

Positive Body Image is being able to love the person you are.  It doesn’t matter if you are skinny, overweight, a super model, mother of 10, or a teenager.  If you don’t love yourself right now, you won’t love yourself when your transformation is complete.  You will never be complete.  Be Happy with who you are NOW!
I LOVE Audrey Hepburn.  I think she is elegant and beautiful.  I do not long to look like her, be her size or shape.  But I enjoy her classy style and acting.  And she left some good quotes.

There are a lot of misconceptions about beauty.  We see it on TV, in movies, commercials, and magazines.  Many of the celebrities that we are admiring have spoken out about the airbrushing.  They have told us about the hours and number of people that work on their hair and makeup.  They admit it isn’t real.  They don’t have this luxury every day.  But yet we have this perception of them every day.

In reality- only 5% of women in the world, fit the “perfect” body that has been shown to us, over and over again.  I’m guessing those 5% have spent a lot of money to be in that group.  How is it possible that 95% of us are wishing we looked like so few people?  That’s enough women to start a revolution!!

When we look in the mirror do we wish things looked different?  I know sometimes I look in the mirror and pick at what I think is wrong.  It isn’t always wishing I looked like a celebrity; just not loving my reflection.  I say reflection, because that is my perception of myself.  I know I love my body, but the reflection that I perceive could lose a few inches, have less skin issues, or wear her clothes better.  It is my perception.  When we can see ourselves the way God sees us- as a creation and something to be loved- we will look perfect!

I know that everybody is different.  That is the joy of our world.  God didn’t create anyone to be exactly the same.  We all have different genes, different sizes, and different colors.  I LOVE it!!  We must remember that our bodies are a gift, from a Heavenly Father that created tabernacles for our spirits.  This body is the only one we get and we should cherish and take care of it.

We should eat healthy and be fit.  I know this means different things to everyone reading.  I don’t believe in diets.  I believe in nutrition that fits our lifestyle.  I don’t eat perfectly clean.  I am trying to eat right.  But I love chocolate as much as the next gal!!  I don’t LOVE to get up early and exercise, but I do feel good when I exercise.  I love to dance.  I have learned to enjoy running.  Seriously, I had to learn- another post, another time.  Again, getting that motivation to get out the door isn’t always easy.  But I start to miss it, if I don’t run for a while.  I have been learning about weight lifting.  I am learning to tone my muscles.  This has been a good experience.  I’ve never had a lot of muscle.  I shy away from HEAVY lifting.  But it is nice to build some muscle (I’m not bulking) and be able to use it! 

I don’t exercise to lose weight or change my size.  I exercise because it relieves stress and releases endorphins.  It is a good way to avoid depression.  I try not to look at the other people working out, I don’t want to get caught up with thoughts of “I wish I looked like her!” or “I’m glad I’m not that big”.  That’s not fair to them or me.  We are all there working to be healthy.  We should have a party every day we are there & celebrate our healthy choice and love of our bodies!!  Ha!  Wouldn’t that get more people to the gym.  Can we get cake too?  Ha-ha!!  Sorry… But I do like cake.

Positive Body Image is important to avoid self-doubt, depression, and eating disorders.  Healthy lifestyle is important for avoiding heart disease, high cholesterol, and type II diabetes.  Positive Body Image is all about loving and taking care of our one and only body.

September 3, 2014

Belly Dance !?!

I LOVE to try new things.  It helps me gain a new perspective, create a new hobby, and learn something new.  It can be frustrating and challenging.  That is why I do it, to challenge myself and challenge my positive point of view.  

I started taking a Belly Dance class about 8 months ago.  It is so fun, challenging, and engaging.  I am definitely a beginner.  But so is everyone else in the class.  We are busy watching our own feet and trying to learn something new.  We don't to care about what other's think.  The class is so liberating.  

Our instructor, Katisha, teaches us to keep trying, feel the dance.  Our bodies and brains aren't working together with all the moves, but she is so encouraging and helpful.  We keep trying.  She goes over the moves and counts as many times as we need.  She teaches us some of the history and culture of the differences in dance.  It so fun to learn how different cultures have interpreted this form of dance.  

I love the environment in the class.  We are all women trying something new, encouraging one another, laughing together (not at each other), and discovering a new sense of our female side.  It is so exhilarating when we learn new dance moves or try dancing with a veil, or finger symbols.  We are doing something bigger than ourselves and finding a new world.

If you know me, you know the following pictures are awkward for me to post.  If you don't know me- I am a very modest person.  I don't like to show a lot of skin or wear skimpy things.  I do hope you can appreciate the costume as much as I did.



This is a traditional costume, Katisha brought for me to try on.  I appreciate being able to put the costume on.  It lit a fire inside.  I couldn't stop smiling.  While learning the dance moves and trying the finger symbols, I felt like the dance was part of me.  I was doing it!  We did some veil dance, and I flowed through the room.  Katisha could see it.  Putting on the costume, really brought the dance to life for me.


This is my instructor Katisha.  She is beautiful inside and out.  She has been dancing since she was 14, if I remember correctly.  She was born in Istanbul, Turkey.  She is currently taking more Belly Dance lessons and is part of a performing group.  She is very knowledgeable about Belly Dance, the history & cultures, and the Belly Dance culture in our own community.

I look forward to Wednesday mornings.  It is such a great opportunity to break away from daily tasks and learn something new.  I go find a new energy, positive outlook, and a renewed sense of self.  I encourage all of you to look up a local belly dance class.  Come to Idaho Athletic in Eagle and join us!  If it's not Belly Dance, find something new, something you've always wanted to try.  You may find something positive out of it.

August 25, 2014

Positive ~ Confident ~ Children

It’s the first day of School and my children are headed off to the halls of 7th, 5th, & 1st grades.  They are excited to meet new teachers, learn new things, and spend time with their classmates & friends.  A couple questions have come to my mind as we prepared for the school year.  What can I do to ensure my children are confident?  What can I do to make sure I send them from a happy home?

I want my children to know I love them.  I want them to step out the front door every morning with a smile on their face & the attitude that “today is going to be a good day”.  They should walk the halls of their school with heads held high; knowing who they are and be a good, kind, positive person.  I want them to walk into their classes and say “I can do this”.   I desire for them to want to come home at the end of each day.
I feel like my kids are pretty confident and independent.  They know they are loved and cared for.  They enjoy sharing stories and time with family.  I tell them "I Love You".  I taxi them around and make them meals.  I give them chores to teach them responsibility.  We hug.  We encourage and congratulate.  Am I doing it right?  Is it enough?
Sometimes, it is hard to be positive at home, because it is our safe place.  Home is where we can let go of our inhibitions and worries and walls.  Home can be such a loving comfort.  So much comfort that we forget our positive attitude and manners with those we love most.  And because we are family, we will continue to love and forgive.  But as parents, are we sending a hidden message when we let these negative words and attitudes take over?  What are our Children taking away?  Are we taking away from their confidence?  What happens to our Children’s positive attitude?  How are they going to perceive the world?
Our children need to feel comfort at home, it needs to be a place they find safety.  Children can look to parents for approval, love, encouragement, and teaching.  I want my kids to come home to be rebuilt, not torn down.  While searching the web for ideas about this post, I found some great quotes.


I LOVE this quote-





 
It is true for more than just kids.  Every one's memories are related to how they felt at the time.  If we can recognize this as the parent, it will help us apply it when spending time with our families.  Our children will desire to return home each day, if they feel loved and safe.  Our children will leave the home ready to take on the challenges of the day, if they can take those feelings of love and safety with them.
 
I found this list of things parents can do to teach confidence in their children:  I have analyzed how I can apply this in my life & home.
1- Such a good way to discover that they can do things for themselves.

2- This is a hard balance sometimes.  It can be a fine line when we see their potential.

3- Sometimes when I check on my kids jobs, I only point out what they didn't do.  I need to remember to offer praise.

4- If we don't believe in ourselves how can they?

5- Set aside the time & DO IT!!!

6- I choose to show them this by example.  I LOVE making goals.

7- I need to be better at teaching my kids they can do hard things.  I get frustrated & do it for them.

8- Boy, oh, boy (and one more boy), do I know this.  3 different boys (+ a girl) in our house.

9- Say "I Love You" as often as you can.  I love my little 3 year old.  She tells me "Momma, I Love You" all day long.  I enjoy saying "I Love You" back!!
 
10- We are a Christian home.  It is VERY important our children know there is always a Father in Heaven who loves them.  I hope that your home has a spiritual relief, where children can release negative thoughts & turn for peace. 
 
I want my kids to leave home knowing (not just believing) the things on the following poster: 
 
 


If my children know this, if they know they are loved, if they know that as parents we believe in them- there is nothing that will break them down.  And because I am not a perfect parent, and my children are not perfect, there will be flaws.  There will be mistakes.  There will be a little yelling now & then.  And sometimes maybe tears.  But despite the mistakes and tears, my kids will know I love them.  They will be able to go out in the world and be themselves.  And...



I know there will be laughing!!










 

August 18, 2014

Setting Goals

We all need to set goals.  It gives us something to work toward.  Whether it’s a goal to read a book, or find peace in our lives, become physically fit, get an education, or even get dinner on the table tonight.  We all have goals big and small.  We may not even realize how many goals we set in a day.  We call it our “to do list”.  But to accomplish these goals we have to have a plan.

Goals can become habit, they can improve your overall life, and even other’s.  Some goals can be life changing events.   My current goals that change my daily routine are to learn about & participate (& do well) in the Mrs. Idaho Pageant (plus all the community involvement that goes along with it!).  I need to work out to become physically fit enough to be on stage in a swimsuit, without having a panic attack.  I do have other things in life I would like to do, but I have not created a plan for those.  This is where I have prioritized my time.
There is a person in my life that has been an uplifting voice, encouraging attitude, and perfect picture of endurance.  It is my sister-in-law, Lindsay.  She is always smiling, and sharing positive and kind words.  I’ve never heard her speak ill of another person or put anyone down.  I enjoy being around her, hearing from her, and having her as family and a friend.

Lindsay was a source of inspiration to me this past weekend.  Lindsay told me a few months ago she was doing a sprint triathlon.  She was nervous, but used her knowledge and resources and trained.  Lindsay did research on bikes, attire, wet suits, and training schedules.  She watched YouTube videos to help her be a better swimmer.  She went to the gym and swam laps (sometimes twice a day), rode bikes, and ran.  She practiced transitioning between swim, bike, & run.  She studied the course map and drove the race route.  She practiced swimming in open water; she practiced riding the bike route.  Lindsay has a hubby who made a great support team!  She also had a pretty fun cheering section. ;) 
The day of the event arrived.  We were at the lake early in the morning to cheer her on.  She started & we could barely keep up with her!  She was a speed demon on that course.  She felt good, she had prepared, and the goal was being accomplished!!  She place 1st in her age division.  It was so fun to see her accomplish this goal she had been working toward.  Lindsay enjoyed it, she was prepared for it, and she performed exceptionally well.  And was still up for pageant shopping afterward!!

It is such an inspiration of how goal setting should be.  Make a plan, work toward that plan, and don’t give up.  Having an event at the end really helps.  You know you have to have it done by a certain time.  My personality type needs something like that to help accomplish goals.  The Pageant as a deadline has been good for me.  Now I want to try a triathlon too!!  Lindsay has given me a lot of energy & great tips.  I know triathlon season is about over & I’m concentrating on the pageant right now.  But I would love to do one next spring/ summer.
I don’t feel like I’m saying anything new.  But hopefully this gives you a nice reminder, a gentle push, or new perspective to goal setting; and maybe even physical fitness.  Please share goals you have set & are working on, or have accomplished!  I would love hear your success stories.  Share some of the struggles you have had while working on goals.  Let’s see if a new perspective can help!!?

August 10, 2014

Social Media


 I have found Social Media a GREAT place to keep in touch with friends, use for networking, and follow promotions from businesses.  I have also seen a lot of attacking and bullying.  I realize that everyone has a right to their opinion, and are allowed to express it.  I do not want to come off as ignorant or intolerant.
I follow our local news channels & newspapers on Facebook.  They often share a piece of news and ask for people to share their opinions in the comments.  I do think it is wonderful that we can create these discussions.  But I often find myself getting emotional or worked up about some of the comments.  I don’t want to be that person, so I have to stop reading.  A lot of people share their opinion, without really understanding the topic.  Others may be knowledgeable, and attack people.
I started following some of the pageant systems on Facebook and through blogs.  I enjoy sending notes of congratulations and Thanks.  I am surprised at the comments that are left belittling those who are in the posts or making personal attacks.  If you are so against that person or what they are doing, why are you following it?  How does your hateful comment make you any better than what you are attacking?  Same goes for some of the religious pages I follow.  I understand religion is a controversial topic.  But why must we feel the need to bring others down?  Tell me why your beliefs are right, not why others are wrong.
Does it make you look better when you make someone else feel bad?  We all know the answer is NO!  We’ve been taught this from a very young age.  It is called bullying.  If you are happy for someone or something, say so.  If you aren’t, do you need be rude?  That’s where the rule- If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all- comes into play.  It isn’t necessary to attack, disrespect, or belittle someone or their cause.  You can have an opinion about a subject, without disrespecting others.
So… There are two points to this post.  One- When we share our opinions, let’s try to do it in an objective way, without being ignorant or attacking.  And Two- when we read other’s opinions try not to judge and be personally offended.  Rise above the rudeness, walk away from it, turn it off.
It is my opinion that we need to fill ourselves and others with as much positive as we can.  Who knows?  That positive feedback may come back to uplift and better you.

May 11, 2014

Happy Mother’s Day!

It's Mother’s Day and I want to share some positives of being a mother.  Let’s face it, it’s not an easy job & being reminded of why we want this job, is always helpful.   There are a lot of jokes, sayings, & quotes.  Here are some that I enjoy.


 When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty

Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had, and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed. ~Linda Wooten

All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother. ~Abraham Lincoln

“Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind.”
Howard W. Hunter



"There never was a child so lovely but his mother was glad to get him asleep."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A mother has far greater influence on her children than anyone else, and she must realize that every word she speaks, every act, every response, her attitude, even her appearance and manner of dress affect the lives of her children and the whole family. It is while the child is in the home that he gains from his mother the attitudes, hopes, and beliefs that will determine the kind of life he will live and the contribution he will make to society.”
N. Eldon Tanner




“I looked on child rearing not only as a work of love & duty but as a profession that was fully as interesting & challenging as any honorable profession in the world and one that demanded the best that I could bring to it.”
Rose Kennedy

“There is no greater good in all the world than motherhood. The influence of a mother in the lives of her children is beyond calculation.”
James E. Faust

“...moms, even good ones, sometimes lose it a little so as not to lose it all.”
Susan Squire

“Having kids — the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings — is the biggest job anyone can embark on”
Maria Shriver


"If you've never been hated by your child, you've never been a parent." -- Bette Davis


Some of these offer inspiration, humor, and a reminder of just how important we are.  I know there are days that you wonder if you can keep going, or if your doing it all wrong.  Keep trying your best, you are a mother forever and your children love you, no matter what.  I hope today you feel that love and appreciation.  And don't forget your own mother.


April 27, 2014

Mrs. Idaho America

I am going to jump around a little bit with my personal journey. I previously wrote about my desire to try new things and continually progress. As part of that journey, I looked up opportunities to serve my community and share my talents. That search led me to the Mrs. Idaho America Pageant. I have never done a pageant before. I always enjoyed watching them on TV and seeing all the beautiful dresses. I didn't even think twice about doing it when I was a teen. Sounded neat, but not for me. I didn't have the self-confidence or motivation to give myself that opportunity. Now, I don't need other people to tell me I am good person, I love my life and my family. This pageant was an opportunity for me to explore service opportunities in my community. And explore a fun way, to find a different perspective about myself. I have definitely accomplished that and so much more. I have met over 80 women from across our state that are doing the same thing: serving their community, raising a family, and sharing their love of marriage with others. There are so many amazing women in this state, and the ladies in the pageant are just a handful representing all of them. It is so inspiring. I meet with these ladies and it makes me feel uplifted, feel good about who I am and gives me inspiration to keep going, be my best, and share this excitement with my family and community. It is truly an amazing thing to sit in a room with women of this caliber. And I had the opportunity to do that this weekend. Just imagine an empty hotel banquet room filled with tables, chairs, pageant packets, and sparkle. In walk 45 women, the women start to introduce themselves by name & title. As the conversations continue we hear about what everyone's families are doing that day. Wow!! This room is filled with people who have really busy schedules. In walks our current Mrs. Idaho, full of smiles, then we see Mrs. World come in with her spunky young personality spilling all over the room. We did a little dance together and heard about their amazing journey. Our pageant directors and sponsors spoke to us about service opportunities, hair care & styling, skin care, make up application, fundraising opportunities, jeans, spray tans, dresses, accessories, community service, kitchen items, health drinks, fitness, eating clean, and more service opportunities. Then we had some time to practice interviews and walking in heels on stage and take some pictures. It was such an information packed, eye opening, uplifting, and girly girl day for me. I am absolutely enjoying this chance to explore myself, serve my community, and celebrate my marriage and family. This has been a very positive experience for me, so far. And it is giving me the chance to "Be the Change I want to See in The World".


Mrs. Idaho- Misty Kesler; Mrs. Eagle- Alyson Likes; Mrs. World- Kaley Sparling
 
If you would like to follow my journey in the pageant, meet my sponsors, and learn more about the Mrs. Idaho America Pageant check out my Facebook Fan Page: Mrs. Eagle- Alyson Likes

April 18, 2014

Spring Break Trip

Our family took our first Family Vacation!! We've gone to visit Grandpa & Grandma in another state as a family, that was okay when the kids were younger, but we realize they need other adventures too. We've gone camping around our beautiful state of Idaho- I would recommend it to everyone!! The big boys have gone out of state for some fun adventures with Dad (thanks to baseball tournaments), but never all 6 of us together. So... I started looking up trips to Disneyland or Las Vegas. Unsure if I was finding the best price, I shared my ideas with my sister, dad, and mom. It turns out my sister & my mom were thinking of Disneyland trips too. So, even better- we planned a multiple family trip together!! The planning was so fun, sharing deals, and finally confirming our vacation purchase!! This was such a great way to see family we don't see often, and have a family vacation. I was so excited, I shared this excitement with my kids (who thought I was crazy- but went with it anyway). We saved up money, did jobs around the house to earn spending money, got everything prepared for the best trip ever! And it was!
Here's why- Disneyland is the Happiest Place on Earth. Really- it is. I don't know how they find that many employees willing to do a somewhat monotonous job (pushing the same ride buttons, waving their arms for the lines to move, sweeping up spilled popcorn), and still smile & call everyone "Princess" or "Prince" or "Musketeer". They were always willing to lend a hand getting on & off rides. I heard some answer the same questions over and over again. The way they kindly remind people not to climb on the chains, fences, or rocks. I don't think a single employee had a bad day. If they did, it didn't show!!! I was so impressed by these positive attitudes. From the moment we stepped off our shuttle & got into the bag check line, each and every employee smiled & spoke kindly. I realize, for some of them, it is how they keep their job, others may actually enjoy seeing 50,000 + people everyday, all day. Whatever it is, Disney has done a wonderful job training their employees, and keeping their employees happy. I actually wanted to apply for a job while we were there, just to experience that unconditional positive happiness. CRAZY?! My kids didn't want to leave, they liked the idea of getting a job at Disneyland and living there forever.
This raised two questions in my mind- 1. Would I ever get tired of being that happy all the time? 2. Why do I need to look for unconditional happiness outside of my own life? I can be that kind of happy, all the time, in my own life- now. Everyone has bad days, it happens. But is it the world's fault? I don't need to take it out on people I meet while running errands. They didn't wake my two year old up crying at 1:30 am, and again at 2:45 am, and again at 6:30 am. They didn't eat all of the cereal and cause my 5 year old to throw a tantrum over it. But... here's the harder part- when this happens in my home (which it does, more than I like), do I still look at my two year old and call her princess? What about my 5 year old musketeer? How am I handling this bad day? Currently- I'm blogging about it. I'm hoping that by sharing my thoughts and goals with all of you, I will feel more accountable to having that unconditional happiness. I do wish I could go through the Disneyland training & see what the motivation is to be kind to the toddler who is screaming about sitting on their mom's lap, or calm the lady down who complained about standing in line so long, just to have the ride break down as she got to the front of the line. (This happened to me twice, but I never felt the need to be upset, because they were so nice about it!) Where can I get that kind of training?
I have to add a little religion here. My religion is part of my everyday life. It is my lifestyle and how I make my decisions. This unconditional happiness that I saw & felt at Disneyland is similar to the unconditional Christ-like love that I have experienced throughout my life. My Savior and Father in Heaven have and always will give it to me, my parents offer it to me and my family. That is what I need to do for my family and others that I cross paths with. I need to share the love & happiness to all the Musketeers that come in and out of my life, but especially the Princess and Princes that are so precious in my world. I know bad days will still happen, but my memories of Disneyland can help brighten those days & give me hope to get through them, along with my prayers and faith of eternal families. I can have that happiness in my life all the time, if I choose to- and never tire of it. I am not getting paid by Disney to promote family vacations there, but I do hope your family can experience the joys of Disneyland. If not, at least a family outing to renew that happiness in your family.