Positive ~ Confident ~ Children

It’s the first day of School and my children are headed off to the halls of 7^th, 5^th, & 1^st grades.  They are excited to meet new teachers, learn new things, and spend time with their classmates & friends.  A couple questions have come to my mind as we prepared for the school year.  What can I do to ensure my children are confident?  What can I do to make sure I send them from a happy home?

I want my children to know I love them.  I want them to step out the front door every morning with a smile on their face & the attitude that “today is going to be a good day”.  They should walk the halls of their school with heads held high; knowing who they are and be a good, kind, positive person.  I want them to walk into their classes and say “I can do this”.   I desire for them to want to come home at the end of each day.

I feel like my kids are pretty confident and independent.  They know they are loved and cared for.  They enjoy sharing stories and time with family.  I tell them "I Love You".  I taxi them around and make them meals.  I give them chores to teach them responsibility.  We hug.  We encourage and congratulate.  Am I doing it right?  Is it enough?

Sometimes, it is hard to be positive at home, because it is our safe place.  Home is where we can let go of our inhibitions and worries and walls.  Home can be such a loving comfort.  So much comfort that we forget our positive attitude and manners with those we love most.  And because we are family, we will continue to love and forgive.  But as parents, are we sending a hidden message when we let these negative words and attitudes take over?  What are our Children taking away?  Are we taking away from their confidence?  What happens to our Children’s positive attitude?  How are they going to perceive the world?

Our children need to feel comfort at home, it needs to be a place they find safety.  Children can look to parents for approval, love, encouragement, and teaching.  I want my kids to come home to be rebuilt, not torn down.  While searching the web for ideas about this post, I found some great quotes.

I LOVE this quote-

 

It is true for more than just kids.  Every one's memories are related to how they felt at the time.  If we can recognize this as the parent, it will help us apply it when spending time with our families.  Our children will desire to return home each day, if they feel loved and safe.  Our children will leave the home ready to take on the challenges of the day, if they can take those feelings of love and safety with them.

 

I found this list of things parents can do to teach confidence in their children:  I have analyzed how I can apply this in my life & home.

1- Such a good way to discover that they can do things for themselves.

2- This is a hard balance sometimes.  It can be a fine line when we see their potential.

3- Sometimes when I check on my kids jobs, I only point out what they didn't do.  I need to remember to offer praise.

4- If we don't believe in ourselves how can they?

5- Set aside the time & DO IT!!!

6- I choose to show them this by example.  I LOVE making goals.

7- I need to be better at teaching my kids they can do hard things.  I get frustrated & do it for them.

8- Boy, oh, boy (and one more boy), do I know this.  3 different boys (+ a girl) in our house.

9- Say "I Love You" as often as you can.  I love my little 3 year old.  She tells me "Momma, I Love You" all day long.  I enjoy saying "I Love You" back!!

 

10- We are a Christian home.  It is VERY important our children know there is always a Father in Heaven who loves them.  I hope that your home has a spiritual relief, where children can release negative thoughts & turn for peace. 

 

I want my kids to leave home knowing (not just believing) the things on the following poster: 

 

 

If my children know this, if they know they are loved, if they know that as parents we believe in them- there is nothing that will break them down.  And because I am not a perfect parent, and my children are not perfect, there will be flaws.  There will be mistakes.  There will be a little yelling now & then.  And sometimes maybe tears.  But despite the mistakes and tears, my kids will know I love them.  They will be able to go out in the world and be themselves.  And...

I know there will be laughing!!